One of my good friends asked me to write a “guest post” on her blog. Since it has been FOREVER since I have posted on here, I figured I should post it here as well :).

This past Saturday, my family went to watch the movie “Wreck it Ralph.” My little guy, Khai, snuggled into my lap towards the end of the movie because he was getting a little sleepy. I was really into the movie and made a large gasp during an intense part. Khai proceeded to turn around, hug me and place his head on my shoulder, while saying, “It’s okay Mommy. Ralph will be okay.” My heart melted. When I told my husband a little later, he said, “Well, twice during the movie, Khai told me that he felt bad for Ralph because everyone was mean to him.” Khai has the sweetest little heart.

All that to say, if you have not met Khai, you are missing out. Khai is hands down one of the kindest, coolest, wittiest kids you will ever meet. Seriously.

Khai joined our family when he was just 10 months old…and from that moment, he has had every one of us wrapped around his little finger. Just a couple of weeks ago, while he was break dancing at the Friday night football game, his grandfather leaned over to my husband and said, “Do you ever wonder what Khai’s life would be like had y’all not adopted him?” That’s a hard question to answer. Because our God loves performing miracles, he brought Khai home over 6 months AFTER Vietnam and the United States stopped adoptions. We faced a lot of heart ache in our adoption process, including one lost referral and a death of our child while we were on the final steps of his adoption. When we lost our child, we were told that we would not be able to proceed with another adoption…but, we had to try, even though if felt risky. Through a miracle, the Lord made a way and we received Khai’s referral. So basically, if Khai had not been matched with us, more than likely, he would be 4 years old still living in an orphanage without a mommy and daddy. I cannot imagine this…not only for him, but also for us.

Just recently I was reading a great book. The author talked about asking her seminary professor how she could really “know God.” As a class, they brainstormed about different ways someone could really get to know our Lord. Of course they came up with answers we all would think of, like, reading scripture, praying, attending church, suffering, etc. The professor agreed with those, but told them they were missing one key, sure fire way to get to know their Lord. They were all very eager to know his answer. When he replied, he said to really know the Lord, you have to be willing to risk everything. RISK is the answer. This answer stopped me in my tracks.

A lot of people think adoption is too risky. I agree that adoption is risky. It is expensive and there is never a guarantee. Your emotions will be up and down for possibly years. But is it too risky? Absolutely not. For a choice to be too risky, the risks have to outweigh the rewards. What are the rewards that we can expect?? Love. Joy. Patience. Perspective. Deeper faith. Evangelistic opportunities… the list goes on and on. God probably isn’t calling everyone to adopt a child. But I do believe that He calls everyone to take risks consistent with His purposes. I hope that each of you will ask Him to reveal the risks that He wants you to take so that you may experience the joy that only comes through taking a step of faith.

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3 Responses to Risk

  1. Stephanie says:

    At Ben’s graduation from Wheaton College this year, the speaker’s charge to the graduates was, “do not take care. take risks.” That has stuck with me, and is something I hope I can live out. Thank you for your perspective! I hope we can take the great risk of adoption one day! :)

  2. Grandma J says:

    I was so touched by this blog and proud of being the grand-parents of not only Khai, but all of your sons- and Izzie, of course! But these children would not be where they are now without the kind of love that you and Zach have for the Lord and each other- a sacrificial love that keeps on giving and giving. Much love and admiration to you all!

  3. Amber says:

    This such a beautiful post. We love you guys and are so proud to call you friends.

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